When it comes to anal sex, the majority of the population has been told that this area of the body is dirty, and should be anything but sexual. It is also very common to think that anal sex only for men that are homosexual or women who do not respect themselves, when none of this is true. Anal play can be an extremely pleasurable, painless and arousing addition to your sex life.

Both men and women have very similar insides when it comes to the anus. The main difference is a man has a prostate (which he may orgasm from the massaging of the prostate) and of course the backside of the penis. The anus, for women, reaches the backside of the vaginal floor and some women even say they can have their Gspot stimulated through the wall. Many women find it very pleasurable to have finger penetration in both areas as the lower wall begins to swell with arousal.

Both men and women have the exact same ,highly sensitive tissue that is full of nerves ready to be explored.

We cannot express how important technique, trust and communication is when it comes to rectal stimulation, a slight lacking in this area can ruin the whole experience, or worse do physical damage.

Most Common Concerns:

Statistics: 30% - 40% of heterosexual couple have tried anal intercourse and up to half continue to add it to their sexual repertoire and 2 -5 million heterosexual Americans couples do it on a regular basis. (Stats from: Guide to getting it on! by Paul Joannides)

Pain:
This is very normal concern and should be taken very seriously by anyone engaging in anal play. The rectal and colon tissue is very thin and highly sensitive, which gives raise to the concern that it may cut, tear or even bleed. All of the above are possible for even the most advanced if the proper steps aren't taken. Anal sex is to be engaged very slowly and must consist of a large amount of applied lubrication and constant communication. The slower you go, the more time it gives you to ease into the situation. Let your partner know exactly what's going on. YOU are the only one that can decide what the next move should be and your partner must agree to this without hesitation. If it ever becomes painful you are doing something wrong and it's recommended that you stop.

Feces/ Doodie:
This is the number one fear when being introduced to "back door" exploration and for good reason. This area of the body excretes everything that is unneeded or unwanted from the body and as we all know this area can have quite an unpleasant smell. You must understand that feces is stored in the lower part of the large intestine until your are ready to have a bowel movement and only a trace of fecal matter should remain thereafter (if you have a regular diet and bowel movements). If this still seems a bit dirty for your liking we recommend a warm water enema and always a good outer rim cleaning before hand.

Loosening of the rectum:
No one wants their rectum to become loose by any means and with soft, proper anal play this will not occur, even with regular entry. Again, we really must remind you that a lot of lubrication, relaxation and communication are very important. The walls in the rectum do not self lubricate and cannot take the rough play like the vagina.